I Am A Woman

Essay by Jelena Anderson

I am a woman. I am somebody’s daughter, somebody’s wife, somebody’s sister, somebody’s niece, somebody’s mother. I was born with a specific gender:  female. This is how God made me. Being a woman is part of what makes me who I am; it is a part of my identity.

Somehow or another we have allowed the government to remove our gender because it might be offensive to somebody. We tiptoe around gender issues because we no longer know how to address them without being offensive.

There it is again; that word.  I used it twice in the last paragraph: offensive. We seem to be more ready to define ourselves by what offends us than by who or what we are. How does that make any sense?

The Bible says that God knew us before we were born, before we were formed in our mothers’ womb: “Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, and before you were born I consecrated you; …” (Jeremiah 1:5 ESV).

In the GOD’s WORD Translation it says “I set you apart for my holy purpose”.

God knew what He was doing. He assigned my gender to me before I was born. That was not a mistake. He has a specific purpose for my life; a holy purpose, and in order to fulfill that purpose I have to be a woman. Not a man; Not something in between. A woman!

“So God created man in His own image; He created him in the image of God; He created them male and female,” (Genesis 1:27 Holman Christian Standard Bible).

Male and Female were created; two genders; not four or six or however many society is trying to create these days. There are only two, and you were assigned only one of those two, which makes you either male or female; not a mix, not a crossover, not a hybrid, and most definitely not a mistake. Just a man, or a woman.

Your God-given gender is part of who you are, part of your identity, just like being a woman is part of who I am.

Knowing your identity is important. There are lots of books and teachings out there to help you find out who you are in Christ. Why? Because when you know who you are in Christ, you have power.

There is a big difference in being a victim or a victor; in being a son or a daughter or an orphan  There is a difference between being made righteous or being a sinner.

When you know who you are, you can act accordingly. Would you act differently if you knew you were royalty?

So if in fact you are royalty but I take that away from you because it might offend somebody, how would that change things?It might confuse you, or it might scare you, because you lost part of your identity. It might also take away from your authority because you no longer are allowed to act like royalty.

So if somebody tells you that being male and female is outdated and that’s really not who you are, it is taking away from your identity. It is taking away from your authority.

I have both a son and a daughter. When my son shows his sensitivity, I don’t worry that he might really be a girl inside; and when my daughter acts like a tomboy I don’t think I need to start treating her like a little boy.  Both of my children were created by their Heavenly Father, who assigned them their genders, just like He gave them the color of their eyes and hair and personalities. He made no mistakes there, so why would He make a mistake by making one a boy and one a girl?

As their mother, it is my job to help them understand who they are in this world as well as who they are in Christ; and if there ever comes a moment of confusion, we will take it to God instead of to a doctor.

I am a woman, but I am also a writer, a warrior, and a princess in His Kingdom, just to name a few. Do you know who you are?